Sunday, November 20, 2011

College and baby?

Is it possible to still get a college degree and have a child?


I am 4 weeks along and i just found out i was pg, now my main concern is going to college, living on my own, working and paying bills. Do you think its possible to get a college degree and raise a child or is my futute ruined? i want to be a good mother for my baby but am scared!! i dont have barely any college done.

College and baby?
Women that are older are scared of having a child. There are a lot of things people have to learn... Yes, it is possible for you to get a college degree and have a child. It will take a lot of hard work and dedication. Working and raising a kid is hard. I know because I do it. Your future isn't ruined. It's what you make of it. If you feel like you need to party and hang out all the time. Then let me be the one to tell you that those days are not going to come. I'm 23 and it's life changing. I still want to hang out sometimes and I can't. It's something you have to get over and raise your kid. They are great gifts and appreciate each moment you get with them. I wish you all the luck and I hope you make the best decision.





~Proud mom of a 5 1/2 month old baby girl~
Reply:Your future will be ruined if you don't continue on with college.


My sister completed college on her own with three little ones. Now she has a beautiful home, and it all paid off. With a lot of hard work and dedication, everything will fall into place. Keep focused on your goals. Warm wishes to you.


ps Becoming a mom is a little scary under any circumstances.


Everything will work out.
Reply:I have as two year old and I'm eight months pregnant and I'm still in college. Its possible. Its tough for me but I'm going to get my degree no matter what I have to do.
Reply:i'm 30 weeks pregnant and I'm in college. I finished my EMT certification pregnant and I'm going on to finish my Paramedic Degree. It's going to be harder, but once I finish I will be able to provide my child with everything it wants and needs.
Reply:You can do it, it might be challenging. Other people have done it, just don't give up. Even if you have to take a break from college, you can always go back.
Reply:Anything is possible. For right now, your baby is your future. But, there is a way to do everything you want. Look at your resources - do you have a network of family and friends that can help you? You may be eligible for grants and/or financial aid at your school. Your school may have online classes that would work around your busy schedule.





The most important thing is to not give up. You deserve everything you want - and an education is something that will be with you for the rest of your life!





Congratulations on becoming pregnant!
Reply:I have seen so many people do college and have a baby. One woman I know had her first child at 18, another at 20 and another at 22, and started her college career with all three children under the age of 5, and sucsessfully completed an RN. I am 7 weeks, and still in school myself. I have no doubts I will graduate just fine, and that if you set that goal for yourself, you will too. Ask an advisor/councelor at the school you are going to for advice. I know my school offers near campus appartments for family housing, at a really good rate, and there is both a laboratory nursury school, as well as a day care center available. Work is usually available on campus too, through work study programs. And look into comunity resources if you are still worried about footing the bill, such as WIC (women, infant, children) program. Good Luck with everything!
Reply:It's definitely possible!





Our first daughter was 11 months old when I got my BA. Luckily, my husband had a flexible work schedule and could watch her whenever I had to go to class, but I did take as many online courses as I could. Definitely the best bet for a student/mommy. ;)





Many campuses even have on-site child care, and you should be able to include the cost of that in any student aid/loans you apply for.





You can definitely do it. Don't stress. ;)
Reply:Of course it's possible.... millions of women have done it. I'm about to become a single Mom going to college full-time... I'm terrified... student loans aren't enough to support us.
Reply:It's definately possible. I got pregnant during my first year of college and missed my finals during my spring semester because I was in the hospital with preterm labor. I went back to college when my son was 7 months old and graduated when he was three. I was lucky to have my mom watch him during the day while I was in class because my husband worked full time. If that's not a possibility for you, there are usually day care centers on campus, and you can include the cost of it in your student loans. Some colleges also offer special housing (not in the dorms) that are for married couples or women with children. There are always options out there for mothers in college. Don't feel discouraged that you won't be able to graduate. Even if it takes you longer than planned, it's still possible. Best of luck to you and congratulations on your pregnancy.
Reply:its very possible. u just have 2 have the mindset and willpower 2 do it...anythin is possible if u believe in urself. u go girl!!!
Reply:Your life is not ruined! God no, so whatever negative feedback you get , don't ever believe it! I fell pregant after attending medical school , we were trying for ages but for me personally motherhood was more important to me than anything. I was always prepared to drop my studies if it ever happened, and it did. But that's just me as a person, I have never viewed this decision as a regret. It does depend on the person. Now that I have a 1 yr old, I look back and wonder how I could of coped with studies and a baby, but I have seen it done. By people in fact who I short judged, I have seen them become masters at organization. It does look like a next to impossible task if you don't believe in yourself, have a plan or a good support network. You need someone you can really rely on if you become sick or are not coping as well as you thought you would. The first few weeks when the bub does not sleep, I can tell ya , nothing prepares you for how that will feel.Even if you had spent 3 days awake at some other stage in your life. I wondered what I did with all my spare time! It is something I believe you can only know the answer to after you have achieved it. If you are going to attempt this on your own I would suggest a definite action plan starting now. You will be surprised at what you can accomplish when the time comes. Is a part time study an option? Babies can be expensive, but if you go about it the right way you can lessen the cost. Garage sales and such (second hand does not always mean shabby). Have an idea now, but be prepared to alter it after the birth. You could even study as much as you can before the birth and use the units you have done to re-enter the catagory later, or another one similar. You don't feel like a fish out of water forever after you have a baby and if your drive for study is still there nothing is hopeless if you strive for it. The time will be hard and emotional don't get me wrong, but you WILL sort it out.Also mature age study is not bad at all, you go back into it a little wiser. It sounds like your studies are important to you so I doubt you would ever give up on them. Unfortunately it's the waiting game to see how things plan out. Things can change in the blink of an eye, I was the career persuer, but now I could think of nothing worse. I enjoy motherhood and can't wait to do it again. I do think your question is possible, but with a lot of hard work and focus , so that your baby still gets all the love and nurturing he/she deserves. Try to work your plan around the baby, not the baby around the study and I'm quite certain you will achive gold in both areas. I very much hope that I have helped you somehow and that you can enjoy this time in your life.
Reply:It will be alot of work! But you can do it. You can make sure that this baby will be your motivation to make it through school. My best friend did it and you can too. She was pregnant in high school and graduated in the top 10 of her class, then moved on to college and also got pregnant in college. She has a degree in Accounting. So you will be fine and this will work out!! You can get financial aid and also you can apply for child care. Good luck.


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