College, job, life advice?

So I'm a 23 y/o guy. I started community college right out of HS, the following Fall, and just started with my GE not quite knowing what I wanted to major in. I made the mistake of getting serious with this girl shortly after, too fast. It was one of those head over heels type love stories. We both put college on hold, working full-time to save up for an apartment together. Two weeks before we supposed to move in, she dumps me for this other guy at her work who had a "crush" on her. I'm left heart broken, yadda yadda yadda.





So long story short, and I've been at this community college for about five and a half years. I do feel like I'm gettin my act together, priorities straight. I'm graduating (finally) from the college with an associates degree and few certifications. I already got into a State College to major in English...pursuing to be either an English teacher or Copy Writer (or both).





I just got laid off from my job, and it's been hard finding new work. I still live with my

College, job, life advice?
Hang in there. I know thats probably not the answer you were looking for, but it's all i've got.


To a degree, I know what you're going through... the whole 'put everything on hold to pursue something you think will last forever' only to have it fall through. I'm at my current university because of an ex boyfriend, the degree i'm working on is what he wanted me to be, and the job I have now is the one he found for me... and it ended over a year ago.


But you know what, things are turning out okay. The university that I never wanted to be at in the first place turned out to be a good place for me. And that career I never wanted ended up being the thing I was truly meant to do.


That's not to say they weren't hard things along the way, the boyfriend I talked about, he left me for another co-worker, while i was pregnant. Life was hard, it was really rough, and there were days when I felt like I was going nowhere... but a bunch of people told me the same thing I just told you... "hang in there." I never wanted to hear it, but it was truly the only thing that got me through.


When it all comes down to it, you're only 23. Thats so young, you can't possibly feel like you're too old to be in college, a lot of people don't even start till they're in their 20's. You've got so much life in front of you... you'll figure it out, even if it doesn't feel like it right now.





I don't know if what i said made any sense, but I hope it helped at least a bit. Message me or something if you need anything else.
Reply:DUDE...I know this sounds crazy to you... but 23 is YOUNG. YOu have sooooooooo much time. Dont even worry about it. Just get a decent PT job, and finish school. That is THE MOST IMPORTANT thing you can do right now to build a future. If your friends are getting married at 23 they are taking a HUGE risk.


Trust me...I've been EXACTLY where you are (except the girl didnt dump me, so I got married at 24 and had two kids by 27). Now I'm 39 and I was in school for 12 years. But I finished got my degrees and have a great job as a college instructor.


Again, I know this, cause at 23 I was engaged and thought I was sooooo grown up. But now looking back, I had no clue how young I was.


Finish school...and while you are at it, party a little and enjoy life. The bar scene sucks when you are 40 and everyone else is 23.
Reply:Sounds like you need to go out and get your life together. Have you considered being a subsitute teacher? Just a suggestion. Buckle down and finish your degree. Meet some new freinds and start moving. You need to stop wallowing in the past and prepare for the future. You can do it...Good Luck and God Bless.

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