Pregnancy after college?

I just asked a question similar to this, but I don't feel people completely understood. I am just finishing up my generals at a community college and then I will go to a different college for 2 yrs once I decide my career. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 4 years and we hope to get married within a year. I don't want to put off a family for school and work. I just feel like waiting until after college to have baby would make me feel like college was for nothing since I want to be a stay-at-home mom. I hope to get into my career when my children are older and are going to school because I really don't want to send them off to daycare. I do plant to finish college, but I kind of feel like college's purpose would be defeated by being a stay-at-home mom right after. Even though I know an education is good thing to have, I still feel like this. And maybe people will be disappointed in me if I choose to have a family and not go straight off to work.

Pregnancy after college?
I am thinking it is only going to be two more years, you should wait. I had my son in my second year of college and it was hard to go back. I don't feel as though my education is gone to a waste though simply because I am a stay at home mother. Once my child is old enough to go off to school all day I have my education completed and I can go off to work, I can use my education and knowledge while out. Education is never wasted on those who want it!





It is harder to go back to school though after you have a child, no matter how old they are when you go back, because you have diffrent goals and needs then you did preparenthood.





It is two years wait it out hun, or atleast wait until you are in your last year of school to get pregnant, that way you will graduate and then have a baby shortly after.
Reply:I can understand how you feel, but I'm not sure you're really thinking long-term.





While you and your boyfriend might marry and start a family and have everything go according to plan, it's not always so smooth.





My dad died when I was a teenager, leaving my mom with four kids - aged 14, 11, 7 and 3. She'd trained as a nurse, kept her license by working on a very part-time basis when we were small and was able to go back to work full-time after he died. If not for her degree, she'd have never been able to keep our family home and put food on the table. (And yes, we had life insurance. Just not enough to replace my dad's entire income forever.) While our case might be a little extreme, there are many circumstances where one partner in a marriage experiences illness or job loss for an extended period, and the other partner has to reconsider her options.





It's also true that divorce happens to many couples who never expect it. And the financial consequences for women can be devestating.





Even if you're able to live on your husband's income, and you really *are* married happily ever after, there are advantages to a college degree.





For many people, their college friends are the ones they keep all through life. And the memories of being in college are often among the very best. Some classes suck, but others just plain open your eyes to things you never considered.





And having a few liberal arts courses under your belt can help you help *your* kids when they have projects for their various classes. I may not have majored in physics, but I can take a crack and telling you about quarks. And thanks to a required class in the arts, I can tell you what was so controversial about the opera Carmen. Essential knowledge? Maybe not. But there's something to be said for being well-rounded.





If you don't finish your degree pre-kids, you'll likely find that there's not enough time or money to do it once the children arrive. It's your choice, but I think you'd be wise to take the luxury of time and earn your degree now. Then be confident knowing that you're prepared for whatever life throws at ya!





Best wishes.
Reply:Only you can answer this question, because only you know how badly you want children. If you think that going to college before having kids will be a waste of time, then don't go to college. If you think it will be good for you and help start your career, then go to college. If you get pregnant in college, you can always apply to finish the courses once you're back on your feet, or the college might let you study part time, at nights or via mail. All these are options, but it'd be a good idea to see what your partner thinks of all this too. If you're not planning on having kids til after you get married, then it might be worthwhile studying now, just so you don't have do do it later.
Reply:off course. do col. first.