College dating vs Real World dating?

Is it me or has the dating game changed since college? Lets face it, the dating game really sucks. It just seems that dating in your late 20's and eary 30's is something dreadful.





One interesting thing I've heard is that when you are in your teens you can't wait to date. When you are in your 20's and 30's you are terrified. When you are married you look back at dating and laugh.





College dating:


Meet guy/girl in class


Meet guy/girl in a fraternity or sorority


Meet someone in a club or organization


Meet someone at college parties


Much less stressful


No pressure to meet the perfect someone





Real World Dating:


Must schedule your date around work


Everything is based on first impression (usually superficial)


Financial and career status is important


Everyone is looking for "The perfect one"


Can't meet someone at work (Sexual Harassment concerns)


Bars and clubs make people uncomfortable





Anyways how do you feel about college dating compared to real world dating?

College dating vs Real World dating?
I think you nailed it on this one. I agree that "real life" dating is a lot less casual and there is a lot more pressure to "get it right" than when you are in college. I'd also have to say that real life in general is a lot less casual and a lot more about "getting in right" in every aspect of it. Get the right job, vs. work at your local sub shop and sleep in till noon. Or, Make a healthy, balanced meal to maintain good health, vs whip up some mac'n cheese and drink it with a beer cuz you'll never gain weight. Lol. The real world is stressful and the dating game is obviously no different here. It's a shame though isn't it??
Reply:Dating is not easy, I'm in my early 20's and I find it to be more difficult now then before. I'm kind of over my 'clubbing everyday' phase which doesn't give me many opportunities to meet bachelors. But, more then that, its difficult to find a mature guy my age.. or even any that are interested in anything other then a O.N.S. But then I wouldn't even know where to find guys who are older then me.. but not my dads age. lol What a dilema!





where are all the eligable men in MIA?? lol
Reply:I am 23 years old, and college dating is more like having multiple sex partners. Instead of an actual relationship, so I always go for real-world dating. Instead of college dating, college relationships might last a year at best. Where if you are committed in the real-world dating. It could last forever.
Reply:when i was in college, i also had to schedule dating around classes and work. everything was based on first impressions, financial status was important, i didn't enjoy fraternity/sorority events or members. the clubs and organizations i joined were full of odd people (i guess because they were not the "social" organizations).


and most people in college were looking for hook-ups and casual sex/dating. once you get out, some people get more serious about dating for relationships.
Reply:Dating is dating. I don't care if your in college, high-school or in a retirement home dating should be about having fun and getting to know someone. It's the people that forget that don't enjoy dating.





The decisions women make about the men they date may seem on the surface to be superficial and arbitrary but what most men don't seem to realize is that an attractive woman simply doesn't have time to date everyone that shows interest. I typically get "hit on" or asked out 5 or 6 times in any given day. I can't possibly date that many guys so I have to make a quick decision as to whether or not the guy asking me out has potential for me or not.





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